Gnwmythr's Glossary: [Content Warning] control (negative, psychic etc)

The most terrifying thing that has happened to me in a lifetime of psychic activity, full of experiences of psychic attack and uncooperatives, was when while sitting in a circle in which I was learning, I thought that someone else should do “X” … and she did. I knew that the person concerned was attracted to me (which was not reciprocated because she was far too young for me), but I hadn’t realised that that had led to a situation where I had some sort of control over her.

Now, to refer to my good old Pocket Oxford Dictionary of 1966, control is the “power of directing and restraining” (and sundry other definitions). In this book, it is used mostly in a negative sense: it refers to controlling another person, to denying that person their dignity, freedom and human rights, and bending them to your will.

Control is very common, and rarely obvious. It usually occurs as some form of emotional blackmail or coercion between friends, within a family, or at a workplace – often with negative psychic overtones. It is also (in the context of this definition) something I would consider often to be evil, and, at the very least, strongly negative (as in, “incurs lots of negative karma”). Even the example I began this definition with is unacceptable – I spent considerable time working at flaws in myself, clearing links, clearing units around the other young woman, strengthening (or trying to) communication between her and her guides –everything I could think of (with my guides help!) to remove that control – from my end, at least.

Let’s look at some other examples.

If you make a fuss or a scene about a family member or friend who doesn’t want to join in some social gathering (i.e., you may, for instance, ask them to come along without freely accepting a “no” without comment or coercion, which makes your question a lie), then you are attempting to control another human being. If you try to persuade an employee to do more than they agreed to when they took on the job without any increase in pay, you are attempting to control another human being.

I have even had a “friend” tell me that I “had” to accept the psychic attack of a third party on another friend! (“You have to accept that in friends, though”) RUBBISH! No-one has to accept psychic attacks on them – let alone something as evil as control.

Some more examples of warning signs that control my be being used, or attempted:

· phrasing questions “but don’t you …?;

· springing expectations or conditions on people (“Of course, you will want to …”, or “Of course, one of the conditions was …”);

· the use of physical intimidation, emotional put downs, or abusive verbal skills (including “sweet talking”, manipulation and aggression) – all of which can be used by any gender;

· “minding other people’s business” (in the sense of gossiping about others), or arranging “what is for their own good” – which shows how control can be hidden behind a façade of what some people may consider reasonableness;

· getting overly emotional (most commonly, angry).

The most widespread way control is exerted, however, is by tailgating other drivers – which is criminal, as well as evil.

Control is best fought by assertiveness (controller's often attempt to play on the developing compassion of beginners on the spiritual path), especially on the physical level, and by blasting (that word is very deliberately chosen) the controller with positive energy on the non-physical level.

Being proficient in, and regularly using, basic skills such as flaming, grounding, shielding / protection, meditation (particularly when it is used to enable contact with one's Higher Self), looking after one's psychic health, looking after one's health on other levels (physical, emotional, mental, spiritual), dealing with issues (such as lifestyle vulnerabilities [see for instance, here, here, here, here, here, and elsewhere on my main blog]), and, above all else, CLEARING, all also help. (If you want another view on this, maybe consider the topic of "occlumency", from the Harry Potter-verse.)

Remember also: the controller could be YOU.

See also “buttons”, psychic attack and initiation.

As of the time this definition was written, I’ve touched on this idea in the following posts:

Post No. 543: More on Phagic Attack

Post No. 530 - The Tara Dale Chronicles: A day on the school yard for Greg

Speculations - control, opposites attract vs. like unto like, group think and infrastructure

The need to simplify life, and some speculations

The Magical Battle of Melbourne, Australia and Humanity

Splashing about in sewers: the exchange of gifts

Fear

Grief

"Briefing for the Landing on Planet Earth" and "Aliens Among Us": a Personal View